How It Works

the greatest discovery i've made in the last 20 years is that our brains do not know the difference between belief and action.

As soon as a person forms a belief, their brain goes to work to prove it true. If you believe you'll have a bad day, your brain perceives a threat and starts dumping chemicals that make your body want to fight, run away, or freeze up (fight/flight/freeze). Your body responds within seconds to take action aligned with that belief.

Your brain is an incredibly effective filter. If you believe bad things happen to you, your brain will filter out good things to prove you right and you'll see more bad things. Not because your brain is evil or stupid--well, some people really are stupid--but your brain thinks you want bad things to happen and it helps you get it. 

Together, we train your brain to believe in the habits that lead to the good life. I know it works because it worked on me and hundreds of clients since I began researching the elements in 1999, and developing my system with hundreds of clients since 2013. 

We get good habits because you believe it, you desire it, and you take action. Somehow, God takes care of the parts we can't figure out or can't control. I know, that sounds mysterious, and some of this stuff is a bit mysterious, but we keep seeing good things fall in our clients' laps, so we just give God the credit and keep marching forward. 

It was not always this way. The breakthrough came with understanding how the brain works. Specifically, we can alter our perceptions and habits (and this is greatly simplified) by training the brain to get what we want. Interestingly, ethics derives from a Greek word for habits, and for 2,500 years, the point of ethics has been to find the habits that lead to the good life.

Remember all that "think positive" stuff? Well, it turns out that stuff works, but you probably noticed it doesn't work on everyone. It does not work on people who do not believe it will work. With a few simple exercises, however, your beliefs can change to become more positive and helpful based on real evidence from your life. It works on anyone who does the work.

The only people my system did not work for are the ones who didn't do it.

Everyone else has benefited. Matthew found peace. Sherry got out of a bad job and started a new business. John created surprising wealth doing what he loves. Moose got a huge promotion and lost 60 pounds (now he's Small Moose). Shan was unemployed over a year and found her dream job in two months. Samantha broke a cycle of bad relationships and found the man of her dreams. Read the testimonies.


You can build habits to have the good life. It's not mumbo-jumbo or magic. It involves scientifically proven strategies that lead to greater happiness and performance by aligning your habits with what you want. Don't get me wrong, this is work. It's work that produces the results you want, not work to get passed over by the boss's pet--you know what I' mean? This work makes you a 7-figure winner in every area of life.

How to build confidence.

Recently, a German author interviewed me for an international book on confidence (my chapter is available free here). The author asked how fear affects confidence. Those two are at the opposite ends of a continuum. One drives the other out. 

Take a minute and think of something that scares you.

Maybe it's a dark alley, a recurring nightmare, or a disease that runs in the family. Is it that presentation next week, that conversation with a supervisor or customer next month, or that hoped-for promotion next year? Maybe it's leaving a bad relationship or having enough money when you're ready to do something else. Let it sit there in your mind for a minute or two. Feel it? Fear is very powerful.

More than likely you have one of these common fears that keeps you stuck in a crummy job.

  • You feel you're not good enough.
  • You feel you don't have enough (money, time, skill, good looks, whatever).
  • You feel like some unseen force is keeping you down.

We can kick those fears out of your life fast, and keep them out. 

How's that sound?

Unless you're a lying idiot, it sounds pretty dang good to be free from fear. Those fears are keeping you down, and my friend, you cannot get rid of them on your own. Just like an athlete needs a coach to tell her the moves to make, you cannot see what you're doing to yourself, and your brain starts locking up when you try. That's nobody's fault, it's part of the way the brain works.

Your brain starts that whole fight/flight/freeze thing the minute you start thinking about your fears. To be rid of them requires help to relax and let the creative part of the brain go to work (which is what you see happening in the photo in the banner of this page--it's a brain making neural connections).

This is not woo-woo mumbo jumbo bulldookie (Texas word). It's backed up by scientifically proven facts. My doctorate is not in mumbo jumbo, it's in ethics with side helpings of managerial psychology, cultural reconciliation, and economics. Honestly, I don't care dink about magic, the universe, or the vague idea that some fool can wish into a better life. I believe in work based on facts, don't you?

For the last thirty years, I've been learning how to make it easier to do the right thing. I help people develop by using what they're confident of to defeat what they're afraid of. I tried it on myself first, and it worked. I tried it in a company and it worked again. Did it work in a church? It did. Did it work in college and graduate school classrooms? Yep. What about younger, emerging leaders? Yes, again. 

Over three decades, more than 750 people have trusted me to help them find a better life. I've probably worked one-on-one with more Millennials than anyone in my field. I’ve worked with another huge sample of Gen-X and Baby Boomers as well, but most of my experience is with emerging talent. People who lacked experience and, therefore, lacked confidence and found themselves afraid of something. After a few months, they defeated their fears, solved problems more easily, and started achieving their dreams. 

Leverage your gifts, talents, skills, and dreams, and explore energy levels, stresses, and motivators. Take advantage of all your God-given awesomeness and find the good life.