Boundaries

  • No therapy. No one associated with Dynamic Coaching, LLC is a therapist. I love good therapists. I'm glad they do what they do. I don't want to do therapy. So I don't. Honestly, I think some coaches are just paid friends and a paid friend is a prostitute. I'm not a paid friend, nor do I work nearly as hard as a prostitute.
  • No lawyering. None of us are lawyers, either. Likewise, I love good lawyers and don't attempt to do their jobs.
  • Little advising. This is about what you want. If you ask for advice, I have a lot of experience and a big network to draw from. Of course, if someone says, "Hey, Jack, I want to drink a bottle of tequila and run down Congress Avenue naked!" I will advise against it while kinda hoping to take photos.
  • Little negativity. We fight negativity when we cannot avoid it. (But we maintain the right to use the spiritual gift of sarcasm, which I have. Snarky is sometimes a wonderful tool. Other times, I need just to shut the hell up.) Seriously, we reframe negative events into positive learning experiences. Even the most negative experience can make you more successful if you learn from it.
  • Nor do we condone acting like “it’s all good” when it’s not good at all. We tell the truth. We take advantage of experiences to uncover deeper personal needs. We do not ignore negative realities, we learn from them.
  • No blaming, unless you agree to "blame good" too. If someone mistreated you, they probably also did something that made you better--let's blame them for the good as much as the bad. And let's be honest, to a great degree, we create our own reality, otherwise, none of us would ever get what we want. Everything would be by chance, and we both know it's more by grace and effort. So blaming others when things don’t go well is not very useful. If you need to vent, “You got two minutes. Go!”
  • No abrogating. You are in charge of your life. We do not let others tell you what you want for your life. Instead, we increase our available resources by questioning conventional methods and social desires. Your mama loves you, but you’re the expert of you.
  • Limited fight, flight, freeze, or knee-jerk reactions. We work together to open up to previously unseen routes to new solutions.
  • Neither workaholism nor laziness. We value hard work—it’s so much fun that we want to save some for tomorrow! We like the rewards of hard work and taking time off to relax is our favorite reward. The brain needs to work and it needs to rest!
  • No taking yourself too seriously. Humor is our ally.